Lexie and John - Married at Glen Magna

Monday, March 18, 2013

How do you seek the joy?
Lexie, who typically enjoys being the center of attention, is actually freaking out about the magnitude of this "audience". John and I cannot possibly imagine what the whole weekend will feel like, only that it will feel significant, fun, and too quick. The fact that all our loved ones are coming together, making such enormous sacrifices to come be with us, fills us with just the deepest gratitude and amazement. It doesn't feel possible, yet I've seen the hotel bookings and know people are coming!
It was an absolutely beautiful day to get married out in the garden. One of those days that is not too hot, not too cold... One of those times you say "THIS is why I live, eat, sleep, and breathe New England."

One of my favorite moments of the day was during the readings during the ceremony. Never ones to conform to any sort of expectations, they selected this really great reading from Darwin:

But then if I married tomorrow: there would be an infinity of trouble & expense in getting & furnishing a house,—fighting about no Society—morning calls—awkwardness—loss of time every day. (without one’s wife was an angel, & made one keep industrious). Then how should I manage all my business if I were obliged to go every day walking with my wife.— Eheu!! I never should know French,—or see the Continent—or go to America, or go up in a Balloon, or take solitary trip in Wales—poor slave. And then horrid poverty, (without one’s wife was better than an angel & had money)— Never mind my boy— Cheer up— One cannot live this solitary life, with groggy old age, friendless & cold, & childless staring one in ones face, already beginning to wrinkle.— Never mind, trust to chance—keep a sharp look out— There is many a happy slave.


  1. hi Eric! actually Darwin has lots of helpful things to say about the big M . . . here's the actual quote:

    To Marry or Not to Marry: This is the question

    Not Marry

    No children, (no second life) — Freedom to go where one liked — choice of Society & little of it. — Conversation of clever men at clubs — Not forced to visit relatives, & to bend in every trifle. — to have the expense & anxiety of children — perhaps quarreling — Loss of time. — cannot read in the Evenings — fatness & idleness — Anxiety & responsibility — less money for books etc — if many children forced to gain one's bread. — (But then it is very bad for ones health to work too much)

    Perhaps my wife wont like London; then the sentence is banishment & degradation into indolent, idle fool —


    Children — (if it Please God) — Constant companion, (& friend in old age) who will feel interested in one, — object to be beloved & played with. —better than a dog anyhow. — Home, & someone to take care of house — Charms of music & female chit-chat. — These things good for one's health. — but terrible loss of time.

    My God, it is intolerable to think of spending ones whole life, like a neuter bee, working, working, & nothing after all. — No, no won't do. — Imagine living all one's day solitarily in smoky dirty London House. — Only picture to yourself a nice soft wife on a sofa with good fire, & books & music perhaps — Compare this vision with the dingy reality of [my apartment].

    Marry — Marry — Marry Q.E.D.

  2. so awesome. so so awesome :]